Athulya Muralidharan
romantic oreintation:hetero leaning, in aromantic spectrum sexual oreintation: sex negative asexual…
It’s in chat sites,that one can see the unfiltered face of allosexuals cuz people are anonymous. Personally speaking, the more I know allosexuals, the more disgust I have for them. It’s not only like they experience a general state of sexual attraction and sexual desire of independent existence but they consider it extremely vital to their existence.
They go onn to say, “food and sex is the reason to live”, ie their main motivation. This remark comes from a person of the 20s age range, yes the very age most people marry. It’s easy to correlate and understand these folks are not marrying without sexual expectations, esp if it’s arranged marriage even more apparent cuz none enter marriage platonically but some sort of interest exists right from the start and is mainly sexually driven (allosexuality ).
Even on explaining asexuality, allosexual folks demean us and try to force their idea of compulsory sexuality . They get so annoyed with the mere existence of an asexual, they disconnect chat or stay for a debate. It’s usually either of the two. This clearly indicates, they can’t wrap their head around how one can not want something they crave , moreover find difficult to even contain.
I’m dead sure , in absence of an emotional bond (btw, an emotional bond doesn’t mandate romantic attraction and vice versa), if people show interest to pair up, esp when romanticism is also absent , at the core it’s sexually driven, ie allosexuality driven, which acts as motivation.The very fact they link marriage to sex, clearly tells me just that- “how are you managing ur feelings/sexual urges if you don’t watch porn , neither married?”
Talking about sex and asking ” do you plan on being forever single”, kinda reinforces the idea of sex being their motivation for wanting to pair up gf-bf/marriage cuz in absence of everything yet interest exists, it is usually sexually driven. In that case, yes I do plan on being single (unless I find someone compatible), since the term implies a state of romantic+sexual pair ups. The question should have been on being alone , not the state of being single. For most people, the term single or not stands for romantic pair ups, which also includes sex (since allosexuals can have sex without romantic love and if in romantic love, ever more the reason to do so). By that logic, I want to be single (a state looked down upon by alloromantic allosexuals , since they are miserable without that) cuz I never wanted to have someone in life for those stuff anyway.
I have wanted to be single, not alone but if I’m with a male, people would tag me as an alloromantic allosexual of hetero version but can I be with a female , with legal union? Nope, not without people assuming I’m an alloromantic allosexual of homo version (ie lesbian ). Either way, any legal pair up would mean I’m alloromantic allosexual , as per them. Why is legalized life companionship restricted to a romantic and sexual relation anyways? It’s not like others want to be alone, no emotional needs etc. To be honest, I find the whole system flawed, completely biased, even worse if it’s an arranged marriage since though done for life companionship, in absence of everything an interest exists and that’s cuz it’s completely alloromanticism + allosexuality driven , with allosexuality having the upper hand.
Another thing I’ve noticed is, the countries that appear to be puritanical, have the most sex obsessed allosexuals, India is one.
About The Author
romantic oreintation:hetero leaning, in aromantic spectrum
sexual oreintation:
sex negative asexual who is anti allosexual and triggered by its mere existence.
