Athulya Muralidharan
romantic oreintation:hetero leaning, in aromantic spectrum sexual oreintation: sex negative asexual…
Getting annoyed every time mom plays songs while she works or on using public transport (though seldom).
I’m not against romantic love, as much as I’m against sexuality but usually only so, if it’s demiromanticism (although I’m not demiromantic ) but it seems like people are alloromantic, which is why it’s taken as a topic
of prior interest ( ie whether or not close to someone they experience romantic attraction, whether or not in romantic love still a general desire for a romantic relation exists and it’s not even fleeting but strong).
A topic of entertainment even!
Almost every song is a poetic description of attractions, either romantic attraction or sexual attraction.
I hate it but the second I question this fact, I get weird looks from people and even elders show passive aggression.
My family is not like me. They are not uncomfortable with songs or alloromantic allosexual society , as long as one acts on it in a regulated/socially approved manner.
One thing I can tell, even if the music is about something romantic (romantic love ) or sexual (item), if the beats are good, I can assume maybe the person is hearing for the music , not the lyrics but in case of a slow song, music is definitely not the case. Usually, people hear slow songs for the lyrics, in case of a romantic song.
I feel low hearing such lyrics but people actually enjoy the lyrics, probably cuz it reflects themselves ( ie, opposite effect). People won’t enjoy something they don’t relate to. If something is produced on a mass scale, it’s only due the the mass demand . If people didn’t relate to it, questioned it, were annoyed or uncomfortable with it, it won’t be this popular for sure.
BUT it’s such a universal topic/common genre , which speaks volumes, as it’s reflective of society and their demands. There is no other explanation.
It’s not even like few songs are such such but almost all!
Nearly every song is a description of romanticism or sexuality .
Romanticism and sexuality is so prevalent , reflective in mainstream media, music , advertisements etc. Almost anything that doesn’t cater little kids, includes such content. The duration of not being a kid is far more than the years one is a kid, which means only a few years one is free of romantic and sexual exposure, or themselves not experiencing alloromanticism , allosexuality , general desire for a romantic relation and general state of sexual urges.
As someone in aromantic spectrum , who is uncomfortable with constant alloromanticism on face and also as a sex negative asexual, who is anti allosexual , I’m triggered by anything sexual. Navigating adult life is tough cuz the world is so hyper focused on romance and sex (big on sex).
So, when I see my own parents having no issues with the stuff I vent on, it hurts and I end up feeling distant from them but at the same time can’t do anything about it. Feels so helpless.
I really don’t understand why almost all songs must be based on attractions. It’s some time pass for people.
It’s some kind of fascination/ fixation . Why such fascination ? It’s not even like just a thing some people experience at some point in life but a fascination.
I find this so uncomfortable and crazy but I can’t even speak how I feel to anyone, not even my own parents.
I feel so empty cuz of that. Locking everything in is hard, esp to do that for life.
I wish the world was not full of alloromantic allosexuals.
Especially , my parents likely being alloromantic allosexuals (of hetero version), pains me to death.
I just keep ignoring it or lying to myself , to fake myself into feeling happy when I clearly ain’t cuz it’s hard to ignore the truth , when its right in front of you.
About The Author
romantic oreintation:hetero leaning, in aromantic spectrum
sexual oreintation:
sex negative asexual who is anti allosexual and triggered by its mere existence.
